Sunday 26 February 2012

An 'undarned' relationship

Relationships are hard. They are like pair of bad socks. They are stinky and sweaty. They keep you on your feet and can cause you a lot of pain. But at the same time they can teach you some good life lessons, like get a better pair of socks!
            Recently I hooked with my ex. He is a super guy (or I thought he was) and we just ended things because we come from different worlds, I am a city girl, he’s a country boy, and were ultimately at different places in our lives at that time. When we got back together he, held me like it never held me before. He made me feel so secure, like all my troubles were about to melt away. He looked me in the eyes and told me there was no body else, that he wanted to give us another shot.
            Needless to say, he wasn’t speaking the truth. The next day when searching a social networking site I find out he has a girlfriend. Furthermore the day before he updates his status to read: “It’s one thing to say she is the one, it’s another to know she is the one”. We were not even talking at that point. Our communication was a fluke happenstance!
            I know this isn’t the case with every relationship I will ever be in but right now I am feeling really upset that he lied straight to my face. Even worse I feel immensely guilty for being the other woman and assisting him in his cheating on her!! If I had known that she existed I WOULD NOT have done anything! But at the same time I asked him point blank and he told me there was no one else. I feel so played.
            I just don’t understand why relationships have to be so messy and painful. Why do they have to be like those undarned socks, painful, messy when your blisters pop and hurt like nobody’s business! But I did learn something for sure, won't be going back to that relationship any time soon. I am pretty sure this one pair of socks that cannot be darned!

Wednesday 15 February 2012

Be Educated, Be Safe and Be Yourself!

I cannot get my mind around this. Selling pornography as science! Making sex addicts like drug dealers make drug addicts! Masturbation as a gateway drug! Just watch and you will see what I mean. 


This video makes me so f*cking mad! Stop making sexuality a horrible thing! Research shows that your children are going to have sex whether or not you give them an inclusive sex education or an abstinence based sexual education. The main difference being a higher rate of abstinence educated young adults with STI's and pregnancy rates because they have no idea what they are doing or how to keep themselves safe! Yes statistics may be what they are, but remember those statistics include both inclusively educated and abstinence educated children. Who is to say what proportion is which within those statistics. 
If you really want to keep your kids safe, allow them to know their f*cking body! If you don't know that your clitorous is covered by a hood (that it is not actually the little flappy bit you see at first glance) there is something wrong!
There is more than one way to love and I really wish that fundementalist groups would get it out of their head their heterosexual hypocritical bias and learn that love is love is love is love. People need to be safe which means they need to be educated! Be Educated, Be Safe and Be Yourself!!!

Tuesday 14 February 2012

Happy You Day!

Happy Valentine’s Day!
Happy Single Awareness Day!
Happy Consumeristic Holiday!
Happy Anti-Independence Day!

Whatever you call today: Happy Day!

For my Valentines is a day of mixed emotions, while I love the idea of celebrating the love that exists between people, Valentines is such an overally consumeritic holiday that I feel it losses sight of what it actually about. It is not about the chocolates or the flowers, or the ooh so sexy lingerie. It is about saying to someone hey I care about you a fucking lot!

But what gets me is why can’t we do that everyday! Why can’t we everyday turn to the people close to us and say you mean a lot to me and I want you to know, just because. Why do we need a specific day to celebrate love? Can’t love be an everyday thing?

In addition, why does it have to be romantic love we celebrate? Why can’t we celebrate friendship, family, fuck just celebrate being you.
Whether it is you as a friend, you as a son/daughter, whomever you may be: take today and celebrate you. Who says you need to be in a relationship to celebrate Valentines Day. I surely don't, instead celebrate everything and anything that is important to you. 

So to everyone out there I wish you a Happy You Day!